An oracle warned Caesar to beware the Ides(the 15th) of March. Sure enough on the Ides, Caesar was assassinated on the Senate floor. Ironically one year ago on the Ides,the same can be said for a man, named David. Although he was no emperor, like Caesar he was loved by many.
David had not a Senate. His was a church board, and he the senior pastor of the church.
For those who know me, it should come as no surprise that I loved David and his family as stated in a Tribute last year. Click here to read. Pastor David: A Tribute
Let me first say I can only speak from my own experience as a former member of the “Senate”. I no longer have anger for the saboteurs or even those that stood idly by for as the saying goes, to hold onto anger is to drink poison while expecting the other person to die.
Although I was taught that how you address conflict is a reflection of ones character. For myself, At times I was overcome with anger, disbelief and felt ill will towards those I once thought to be close friends. Conflict resolution became isolationism for not knowing who I could trust rather than a civilized reconciliation process. Let’s call it survival mode.
With respect to David, initially he chose to stand and face his accusers which I feel took courage. This is by no means a declaration of a bias toward making David a martyr nor claim his innocence for that is between him and God
The purpose of this communication is to ask forgiveness and a call to diligence.
I ask for forgiveness for any shortcomings we possessed as board members that resulted in so much hurt,confusion and ultimately collateral destruction of a congregation/family we knew were loved by so many.
The is also a plea for diligence to prevent history from repeating itself.
So who does the Senate (church board) answer to if not the people?
At the chance of being dramatic, as Caesar was being assassinated was the voice of the people being heard?
With respect to David was that the congregations will?
In my humble opinion I find it hard to believe it was either.
Who could have, should have protected him? Sadly I am still not sure.
After a year away, I have come to appreciate that regardless of a persons role in the church , pastor, layman, board member, looking to Colossians 3:12-17 on how we treat each other regardless if there is conflict or not, brings us closer to the answer. One might argue that being “clothed in Love” more often than not will keep conflict at bay. Brought tears as I read this.
“God has chosen you and made you his holy people. He loves you. So you should always clothe yourselves with mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you. Even more than all this, clothe yourself in love. Love is what holds you all together in perfect unity. Let the peace that Christ gives control your thinking, because you were all called together in one body to have peace. Always be thankful. Let the teaching of Christ live in you richly. Use all wisdom to teach and instruct each other by singing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Everything you do or say should be done to obey Jesus your Lord. And in all you do, give thanks to God the Father through Jesus.”
Colossians 3:12-17 NCV
May we clothe ourselves and our fellow men and women in Love and May God have Mercy. Amen.