“Forgive others and you will be forgiven” ,”Forgive and forget”.
In Luke 23:34 Jesus said “Father forgive them for they know not what they do”. 

All familiar phrases. We love to provide this advice to others.

Others that we might not have any idea what they have experienced. 
Then, as he only can, C.S. Lewis hits you between the eyes with, “Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea… Until he has something to forgive.” 

Recently myself and loved ones experienced deep emotional wounds caused by those who we had thought to be trustworthy friends, almost like family. As merciful time has provided some healing of these wounds, a mental inventory tends to naturally take place and much like hitting the refresh button for a website, an evaluation takes place on the status of personal relationships. Personally as I described in an earlier post, “Human Nature”, A simple approach to the worthiness of a personal relationship can be evaluated by what others do while you are at your most vulnerable.if they cut your jugular, this is a reflection of their character and more importantly, NOT YOURS. At that point it’s not about forgiveness, all that matters is having enough self respect to sever ties to that person. Although it may sound harsh, to engage with them is to engage with a fool or a drunkard. 


  1. I appreciate your thoughts, remember that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It means letting go of the anger and emotion that has us in bondage. I also appreciate your part about cutting ties. Forgiveness means moving on and getting away from unhealthy relationships, severing ties, as you said and letting go and letting God!

  2. I agree completely goroyboy – you have to cut them loose. I have done this many times; it’s not comfortable but necessary.

  3. Totally agree, although many times we hesitate to cut the ties. However once we do, it is like a load has been lifted off our shoulders. Then we can go forward with the plan for our lives….

    1. Diana, thank you for reading and commenting. Yes especially if for the most part you look for the best in others. acceptance of the truth that not all feel the same way about you is a tough pill to swallow . God bless you

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